Let's Be Honest Here

Hi Fashion Dolls, It's been a while. A little update on everything, I've been insanely busy with sophomore year and mental health struggles but I want to write about everything I've been learning over the last few months and talk about everything that people are afraid to talk about.

In the last few months I’ve struggled a lot with self-love, staying positive, and feeling worthy. Now, I'm not saying this for solicited pity. Although I'm no longer struggling, I am on a journey of bettering myself and I want to share the big sister advice that I wish I had when I was feeling my lowest.

Let's be honest here. If you're 12-25 your mental health is probably struggling currently. The world we live in is wild and no one knows when the next tragedy will strike, and if you use social media you're probably judging yourself constantly. Whether you're scrolling through Instagram or tapping through Snapchat, you're probably mindlessly comparing yourself to everyone else you see on your phone screen. But when you look at the big picture, none of that stuff really matters. So why do we let it get to us so horribly?

A lesson that took me an infuriating amount of time to learn is that what others say about you, or what you say about others is a reflection of your biggest insecurities. What that means is — if you’re making fun of someone for being too skinny, you are probably feeling chunky, or if you’re calling someone a slut, you might be insecure that guys aren’t noticing you as much as you want. So when we’re looking at social media and comparing ourselves to others, or find ourselves thinking hateful thoughts, we’re really taking energy away from loving ourselves. I know it sounds cheesy, but the biggest key to loving yourself is also learning how to love others. When you look at some of the best female role models they all have one thing in common. They build other people up instead of trying to tear others down. Rather than being jealous of what they don’t have, they applaud those that do. When you accept yourself, you will be able to let go of all that was holding you back.

Part of accepting yourself is teaching your brain to stop judging yourself. Even if you are joking with self deprecating humor, your brain doesn’t know the difference between a joke and seriousness. If you are kidding around and say “Oh hahaha, I’m so stupid” your brain does not know the difference. If you don’t talk highly of yourself, who will? And along with that, manifestation is REAL. The amount of opportunities I have turned to reality by speaking a dream into existence is incredible. What you say and think of yourself truly does matter, and once you teach yourself how to speak to yourself, you’ve won half the battle. I used to judge myself all the time about social status. Which is ridiculous. I used to think that my worth revolved around if I hung out with the “cool kids” or not, but in reality I didn’t even like hanging out with who was considered the cool kids. Rather than living the life I really wanted to, I was living the life that I thought everyone else should see me living. I was only focused on the perception of me instead of what made me happy. Finally when I stopped judging myself was when I actually found the people I enjoyed hanging out with, I found peace in my mind, and I found friendships that were true.

As we enter 2023, we want to see our best selves come to light. As you visualize how you want to grow, and the goals you want to achieve this year, don't be so hard on yourself. Whether you're 18 or 88, there is always room to grow and become better than the last year. I'll never claim to be an expert on this sort of thing, but as I learn life lessons I find time to share and reminisce further down the line.

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Happy 2023!!