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Why Enneagram 8 Women Are ELITE

Welcome back, Fashion Dolls. Today's post is a little more niche than I typically share! As a woman in her twenties, who identifies strongly with Enneagram Type 8, I've often found myself in awe of the incredible women around me who share this personality type. Contrary to stereotypes, female Enneagram 8s are not just assertive or aggressive; we possess a unique blend of strength, vulnerability, and passion that makes us truly remarkable individuals. In this blog post, I want to celebrate the awesomeness of female Enneagram 8s, drawing from my personal experiences and those of my fellow Enneagram 8 women friends.


For those who aren't familiar, the Enneagram is a powerful and dynamic personality typing system that delves into the intricacies of human behavior, motivations, and fears. It categorizes individuals into nine distinct personality types, each with its own set of core motivations, fears, desires, and patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. These types are represented on a geometric figure called the Enneagram symbol, which illustrates the interconnectedness between the different personality types. Unlike other personality typing systems, the Enneagram goes beyond surface-level characteristics and delves into the deeper motivations and underlying dynamics that drive individuals. It offers profound insights into self-awareness, personal growth, and interpersonal relationships, making it a valuable tool for understanding oneself and others on a deeper level.


1. Fearless Authenticity

One of the most admirable traits of female Enneagram 8s is our unapologetic authenticity. We refuse to conform to societal expectations or suppress our true selves to fit into predefined roles. Whether it's in our career choices, relationships, or personal beliefs, we boldly express who we are without fear of judgment. This authenticity inspires others to embrace their own uniqueness and live authentically. You could say that we possess the "girl boss" factor. However, this comes with its challenges as well. We're often accused of being bitchy or too intense, but as one of my female 8 besties says, "If you don't have haters, then you ain't poppin'".

2. Natural Leadership

Female Enneagram 8s possess a natural affinity for leadership, a trait particularly beneficial for those, like me, pursuing studies in Entrepreneurship. We thrive in taking charge and making decisions, especially in the face of adversity. Our confidence, assertiveness, and knack for motivating others equip us to lead effectively across various domains of life – whether it's leading a team project, throwing together social events, or standing up for important causes. While I've accumulated numerous stories about my leadership roles in different organizations, I've also encountered my fair share of being labeled "bossy." Initially, these comments unsettled me, but I've come to embrace them as compliments, recognizing that they highlight my natural leadership qualities.

3. Empathy and Compassion

Contrary to the misconception that Enneagram 8s are solely focused on power and dominance, female Enneagram 8s exhibit a depth of empathy and compassion often overlooked in their male counterparts. We fiercely protect and stand up for the underdog, advocating for justice and fairness. Our strong sense of justice is rooted in our empathy, driving us to fight for equality and inclusivity. Sometimes, we find ourselves taking a stand even when it means going against popular opinion, persistent in our commitment to what we believe is right. One of the best things about being friends with Enneagram 8 women is knowing they will always have your back, even when it means taking the unpopular stance. It's something I take immense pride in, and it's one of the qualities I cherish most in my Enneagram 8 friends.


4. Resilience in the Face of Adversity

Female Enneagram 8s are formidable warriors in the face of adversity, renowned for our unwavering resilience. When we set our minds to something, we do it, no matter how difficult the obstacles may be. We confront challenges head-on, refusing to succumb to the grip of setbacks or obstacles. Instead, we harness our inner strength and determination to rise above adversity, transforming hardships into opportunities for growth and empowerment. Our capacity to rebound from adversity, extracting invaluable lessons from our experiences, serves as a testament to the indomitable spirit that courses through our veins. With every trial we endure, we emerge not only unscathed but fortified, our resolve sharpened and our spirits invigorated, ready to conquer whatever challenges lie ahead.

5. Cultivating Authentic Relationships

In our friendships and romantic relationships, us female Enneagram 8s are all about keeping it real—honesty, loyalty, and authenticity are our ride-or-die values. With our natural intensity, we're not just looking for a spark; we want fireworks, especially in our relationships (this includes friendships). Building deep connections based on mutual respect and trust is our jam, and we're not afraid to tackle tough talks or conflicts head-on. Our relationships are all about being completely transparent, fueling adventures and growth with that raw, unfiltered honesty. These connections aren't just fulfilling; they're like jackpot hits of love and vitality, making life one big thrilling ride.


As a 22-year-old Enneagram 8 woman, I've got a fresh take on life and love. Female Enneagram 8s aren't just about being bold or fierce; we're a whole package deal, bursting with strengths that make us stand out. Whether it's our no-nonsense authenticity, our knack for taking charge, or our ability to bounce back from anything, we're the epitome of girlpower! So, here's a shoutout to all my fellow badass Enneagram 8 ladies – let's keep owning our strength, leading with integrity, and inspiring everyone around us to do the same!

Thanks for reading!




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